Lois Hjelmstad

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Compassion and courage for the times you need it.

It Seems Like Forever

It seems like forever since my last post about winning a nice award for Abidance: A Memoir of Love and Inevitability. It was such an exciting time for Les and me. And it has been eighteen months. It was August of 2019. We have all been through a lot since then. We can barely recognize […]

Thinking of Your Mom?

As you and I wait for the FREE Kindle book download for The Last Violet: Mourning My Mother, Moving Beyond Regret, on May 7 and 8, I'd like to share two other excerpts from that book: http://www.loishjelmstad.com/can-you-visit-your-childhood-home http://www.loishjelmstad.com/you-can-run-but-can-you-hide I wrote the first part of The Last Violet while my mother lay dying in home-hospice. It was a very […]

Tribute to My Beloved Friend

It is four years ago today that my best friend and sister-in-law died of pancreatic cancer. As I look at her picture above my desk, I miss her as though it were yesterday. Mary Jo was generous, loving, kind. She worked tirelessly in her church, served countless dinners for Sons of Norway, read for the blind, […]

Why Am I Alive? Why Is She Dead? No. 3

Shoreline (for Ann) Everything seems so distant now Is Life receding or is Eternity approaching? (Excerpted from Fine Black Lines, (c) 1993, 2003 Lois Tschetter Hjelmstad)  

Why Am I Alive? Why Is She Dead? No. 2

This is August–the month in which I wrote several poems for my dear friend, trying to cope with her dying, trying not to be scared for myself, trying to find courage. (See No. 1) Questions how do you live when your life has been reduced to dying? where do you find some shreds of joy amidst the crying? […]

I’ve Lost My History (Mother’s Day7)

During the eleven long weeks that my mother lay dying in hospice, someone told me to ask her everything I wanted to know. I tried to think of things, but I was so shocked by the whole situation that I couldn't form the questions. Ask YOUR mother things you need to know NOW. I Clutch […]