Lois Hjelmstad

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Compassion and courage for the times you need it.

Transition to Cancer Survivor

This morning I read an excellent post on the transition from patient to survivor (http://quivervoice.wordpress.com/2014/08/07/picking-up-the-pieces). How do we go about our lives during/after a bout with cancer? Nancy's post prompted me to review what I wrote in Fine Black Lines and I'd like to share that with you. Be sure to read Nancy first! "Several years later, thinking […]

Unwanted Anniversary Part 2

After my diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome, I was embarrassed, mortified. What had I done to cause it? Had I worked too hard? Was I too much of a Type-A personality? Please let me continue the excerpt from Fine Black Lines: "Aside from Les and our children, I told no one about the diagnosis for two years. I tried […]

Hierarchy

Last week I read an excellent post from Marie Ennis O'Connor on "Is There a Hierarchy Among Cancer Survivors?" Then this week that discussion was followed by another excellent post and discusssion at Regrounding. Even though the topic has been quite thoroughly and thoughtfully covered in these previous posts, I'd like to add a bit.   So, is there a herarchy among […]

A Final Poem for October

Affirmation The breasts are gone but I am whole Disfigurement need not include my soul (Excerpted from Fine Black Lines, copyright 1993, 2003 Lois Tschetter Hjelmstad)    

Questions No One Should Answer

Telling Knots has a great post on the thoughtless questions people ask of breast cancer patients and how people try to find reasons for illness and/or death. Somehow we think that if we can assign blame and identify what the patient did to get cancer, we will know what dumb things not to do and therefore we will be safe […]

Poem for My Flat Chest

In keeping with my recent posts on whether or not to reconstruct/replace one's breasts after a mastectomy, I offer one of my poems: Double Amputee I have looked this way before– flat-chested, pencil-thin when I was ten Strange it is to seem a sexless child again (Too bad about the graying hair and slightly sagging chin) (Excerpted […]