Lois Hjelmstad

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Compassion and courage for the times you need it.

Married 65 Years Today

Today it is 65 years since Les and I married. Our church magazine had asked me to write the story of our lives and I'm sharing that with you today. It's longer than I like my blogs to be, but, hey, it's our anniversary! And it is 65 years.   It was one of those weird butterfly effects. What if […]

Unsolicited Cancer Advice – Declutter Your Mind

Sometimes I think that unsolicited advice comes with the territory of our cancer diagnoses, be they last week or twenty years ago. I have to admit that, even knowing how unwelcome it is, there have been many times I have been tempted to dispense same. And, horrors of horrors, gulity more than once.  That advice can be medical, pseudo-medical, […]

Declutter – What I Find

As I continue decluttering, I found an old poem in a file. The file was not about poems, but there it was.  When the writing of This Path We Share: Reflecting on 60 Years of Marriage sort of came to a standstill because I could not figure out what it was about, someone suggested that I write a poem. […]

Poem for My Flat Chest

In keeping with my recent posts on whether or not to reconstruct/replace one's breasts after a mastectomy, I offer one of my poems: Double Amputee I have looked this way before– flat-chested, pencil-thin when I was ten Strange it is to seem a sexless child again (Too bad about the graying hair and slightly sagging chin) (Excerpted […]

4 Marriage Tips from Someone Who Thought She Knew

My models for marriage were not flawless. Although of course I didn't really know (can one ever really know about someone else's marriage?), I did not view the marriages of several couples in my early life as being especially happy. Some of them indulged in long, uncomfortable silences when they were angry or hurt. Others barely tolerated one another. […]

5 Tips on Marriage from Someone Who Really Doesn’t Know

64 years and 13 days. As our anniversary month nears a close, I think of many things I would have liked to have shared. Oh, well, maybe next year! Or maybe this Thursday. I don't usually talk about tips because I firmly believe that each new day in a marriage is an adventure with the possibility to be […]