Lois Hjelmstad

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Compassion and courage for the times you need it.

Mother’s Day Sadness

For the past eighteen years, I have felt especially sad on Mother's Day.  Don't get me wrong – my husband and family were wonderful, provided beautiful flowers, poignant cards, a book of exquisite poems by Ted Kooser, a precious little stuffed animal, and took me out to dinner. I loved it. All of the love and fun, however, […]

Death of a Friend

Almost two weeks ago, I had a distinct nudging to visit a friend of ours.  Les and I have belonged to a small support group through our church since 1969. Of the original nine couples and one single, seven of the men and three women had died. Floyd, the one remaining man beside Les, had been having […]

4 Marriage Tips from Someone Who Thought She Knew

My models for marriage were not flawless. Although of course I didn't really know (can one ever really know about someone else's marriage?), I did not view the marriages of several couples in my early life as being especially happy. Some of them indulged in long, uncomfortable silences when they were angry or hurt. Others barely tolerated one another. […]

Do You Need a Lift?

Hi, everyone! Hope your day is going well. I have a previously unpublished poem for you today: To be alive– that is the joy To be aware– that is the hope To find the inner core of strength– that is the blessing To look at Death and have no fear– that is the freedom To […]