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Lois Hjelmstad

Poem for My Flat Chest

In keeping with my recent posts on whether or not to reconstruct/replace one's breasts after a mastectomy, I offer one of my poems: Double Amputee I have looked this way before– flat-chested, pencil-thin when I was ten Strange it is to seem a sexless child again (Too bad about the graying hair and slightly sagging chin) (Excerpted […]

4 Marriage Tips from Someone Who Thought She Knew

My models for marriage were not flawless. Although of course I didn't really know (can one ever really know about someone else's marriage?), I did not view the marriages of several couples in my early life as being especially happy. Some of them indulged in long, uncomfortable silences when they were angry or hurt. Others barely tolerated one another. […]

5 Tips on Marriage from Someone Who Really Doesn’t Know

64 years and 13 days. As our anniversary month nears a close, I think of many things I would have liked to have shared. Oh, well, maybe next year! Or maybe this Thursday. I don't usually talk about tips because I firmly believe that each new day in a marriage is an adventure with the possibility to be […]