Lois Hjelmstad

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Compassion and courage for the times you need it.

Death of a Friend

Almost two weeks ago, I had a distinct nudging to visit a friend of ours.  Les and I have belonged to a small support group through our church since 1969. Of the original nine couples and one single, seven of the men and three women had died. Floyd, the one remaining man beside Les, had been having […]

Why Am I Alive? Why Is She Dead? No. 3

Shoreline (for Ann) Everything seems so distant now Is Life receding or is Eternity approaching? (Excerpted from Fine Black Lines, (c) 1993, 2003 Lois Tschetter Hjelmstad)  

Why Am I Alive? Why Is She Dead? No. 2

This is August–the month in which I wrote several poems for my dear friend, trying to cope with her dying, trying not to be scared for myself, trying to find courage. (See No. 1) Questions how do you live when your life has been reduced to dying? where do you find some shreds of joy amidst the crying? […]

Father’s Day – Death

This week of Father's Day, I'd like to share several posts about fathers. I will start with this one about my dear father: On Saturday morning—exactly one week after my ovarian surgery—I awoke at eight forty-five. It was late. Dad had not checked in at six forty-five as he had every morning in the three […]